Caught in the middle...

Well, the title says it all. It's my cousin and her boyfriend, or should I say, ex-boyfriend. SHE's my close cousin and HE turned to be close friend as well. So here's the story... [i'll use HE and SHE, for confidentiality's sake]

HE and SHE were together for over six years already. SHE was only 17 when they started dating. And now, she's already 23. So you could say that she grew up with him and the bond would suppose to be like "unbreakable." But the we-really-have-no-control-over-things got in the way and the unexpected happened. Actually, it's just recently. I think,  before Christmas eve or sometime before Christmas. And who would not be shocked? HE was already like a family to us.

SHE said that there was this person who kept on texting her claiming that he was Arnel or Ariel something, that they were old colleagues. It annoyed her, SHE told me.

And to make things worse, last month, on that "sometime before Christmas", HE had sent a message to her or rather missent a message. [No need to state it!]...And that's how SHE started to feel something dubious. And that's when that Arnel or Ariel, the hell that he was, claimed to be a girl and she's HE's girlfriend, that they're together of almost two years already...
Well, well, the usual confrontations happened. And HE admitted it true somehow. [well, i've always known him as an honest being.]........ They broke up after that! [that easy because it's kind of a long-distance affair. HE's in working in Qatar for over a year now.]
I'm SHE's cousin, so you could guess how I reacted.

BUT, but, but.... I got the chance to talk to HIM. I asked him how things went wrong, what part of their relationship was wrong that it compelled him to have a "spare-fling" and so on.... And then HE told me that he was always loyal to her before. It even came to a point that he was like worshipping the ground she walked upon. And after work, he went to her house just so they could be together and to prove that she's the only one. But she keeps on complaining. She's so jealous. Even with us, her cousins. Whenever we got close to him she went green-eyed. For all those years that they were together, she hadn't really trusted him. Time came that HE became so fed up with her, with the complains, the jealousy, the lack of trust, et cetera...So that's when he started with his spare fling...

So, there. They're both close to me and really, I'm not mad at him or something.
They're both wrong, right?!?! And I'm not on anybody's side..
I just don't think that my cousins will understand that I  sort of pity him. He's such a good person and all. And now he's taking all the blame. He's tells his family, whenever they ask how it happened, that it's all his fault... Well, if I were in his shoes, I would do the same. Everybody blames him. Might as well give them the benefit of the doubt, eh? Anyway, no one would listen if he explains his side now since my cousin looks so....pitiful. Well, she's a girl. And girls are supposed to look that way after such a break-up. hahaha..

Well, what do you think?